Breastfeeding my Monster at a park in Rogersville, TN.
He's nearly 3 years old here!
Welcome to the July 2010 Carnival of Nursing in Public
This post was written for inclusion in the Carnival of Nursing in Public hosted by Dionna and Paige at NursingFreedom.org. All week, July 5-9, we will be featuring articles and posts about nursing in public ("NIP"). See the bottom of this post for more information.
Recently my oldest daughter turned six years old. Her birthday was also something special for me; not only had I been a mother for the better part of a decade, but I had also been the owner of this super-power called lactation. I have nursed through three toddler-hoods and two weanings only missing the achievement of nursing three children by a few months. Even after all this time, I am still utterly (no pun intended!) amazed at how remarkable my body is.
During my third and last pregnancy, I was nursing both my older daughters. Our oldest, 3.5 years at the time, weaned only a few months before her brother arrived and I continued to tandem nurse the younger two until our middle child weaned at the age of 2.5 years. At 2 years 8 months, our youngest child is still nursing.
I have nursed in many places and do so proudly. I have no reason to hide! However, I haven't always felt that way. I used to be the mother to search out the fitting rooms, or sit in the car whilst the rest of my family enjoyed shopping or other outings. One day, I realized how much I was missing out on by feeling the need to hide. I didn't come to this realization from my own experience, but from one I witnessed.
While out shopping one day, I had to take my oldest daughter to the restroom. Unbeknownst to me, I walked in the public restroom to see a momma jugging an infant and trying to nurse beside a changing table in a stuffy bathroom. This wasn't a nice bathroom with lounge chairs or attendants. It was a box retailer's run of the mill generic public restroom. At first my heart sunk. Why was she nursing in the gross bathroom?! I gave the mom an encouraging smile, but really, what message did I send? I, too, was hiding when I nursed. Looking back, at least a million times, I had wished I would have told her "Good for you" or "It's sad we feel the need to hide" but I didn't. Instead, I vowed to never hide again. I can breastfeed discreetly and I will.
From that day on, I nursed anywhere and everywhere. Disneyworld? Nursed there. Gatlinburg TN? Right there on the streets. The local zoo? Many places, but a favorite of ours is overlooking the Savannah with zebras and elephants.
My husband was a little concerned in the beginning, but it wasn't long until he realized how much easier it was to just nurse where ever we were and how little you could actually see while nursing. For both of us, this was a huge change to the culture of where we both grew up. The breast was so sexualized and the bottle was glorified that I had only seen breastfeeding very briefly one time before having my own children.
Which brings me back to the six years of continuous nursing day. We took our daughter and my husband's parents out to eat at a pizza place for our daughter's birthday dinner. After a day of mini-golf in the sun, we knew our two year old was only breaths away from a tantrum and meltdown. After being seated, it was only minutes until our son asked to nurse. Of course I let him! No one in the whole restaurant cared. The waitress never blinked; however, my father-in-law was sure to keep his head down the entire time I was breastfeeding. At least he didn't leave! Hey, that's progress, right?
Welcome to the Carnival of Nursing in Public
Please join us all week, July 5-9, as we celebrate and support breastfeeding mothers. And visit NursingFreedom.org any time to connect with other breastfeeding supporters, learn more about your legal right to nurse in public, and read (and contribute!) articles about breastfeeding and N.I.P.
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This post is just one of many being featured as part of the Carnival of Nursing in Public. Please visit our other writers each day of the Carnival. Click on the links below to see each day’s posts - new articles will be posted on the following days:
July 5 - Making Breastfeeding the Norm: Creating a Culture of Breastfeeding in a Hyper-Sexualized World
July 6 – Supporting Breastfeeding Mothers: the New, the Experienced, and the Mothers of More Than One Nursing Child
July 7 – Creating a Supportive Network: Your Stories and Celebrations of N.I.P.
July 8 – Breastfeeding: International and Religious Perspectives
July 9 – Your Legal Right to Nurse in Public, and How to Respond to Anyone Who Questions It